Sometimes, you don’t know what to say. Whenever that happens to me, I make a point of it to just stay quiet and listen.
Most people don’t do this. They will fill up the ‘awkward silence’ with nonsense.
Silences aren’t awkward. Nonsense, on the other hand, is. It makes me acutely aware of how insecure the talker must be, to fill up a moment that can be used for reflection and thinking with gibberish. This shows a lack of discipline.
If you don’t have anything smart to say, then just don’t say anything. Let the other person guess at what you’re thinking. Doing this will increase your confidence, because the things you’ll say from now on will be things you’ve thought about.
I am in the process of writing an essay and I’m stuck. The same rule applies here. I distance myself from the work by sleeping, and will continue with it tomorrow morning.
The morning presents you with new ideas, and this will prevent me from repeating the same argument or writing down something stupid.
This is a luxury I have because I started on time. If you do something at the last minute, you’re bound to make mistakes.