Monday, I had a pretty good day.
I went to the Dutch Chamber of Commerce and registered my business.
Now I can sell art and books for a profit and do it legally.
You will read a lot more from me the coming time.
I will keep working hard to get off the ground.
I’ve come a long way since my psychosis. I don’t drink anymore, I have positive things in my life and one of the few things to tackle now is my smoking habit.
Another thing to get a grip on is my business. I want to stay productive, make screen prints and watercolour portraits.
In addition, I am writing a book. It’s about myself and it’s a self-reflective excercise. I am still thinking about whether to publish it, because it’s pretty personal.
I have met a doctor who is 41 and who is pretty into self-help books, just like I am. He will be travelling to the United States to do some field work on personal development and after that, he’s going to write a book himself.
I want to surround myself with more positive people like that who have goals and want to get things of the ground.
Start or join a network of people who are okay with who they are but are at the same time aiming to develop themselves to share their positive message with the world. Maybe this is a paradox, being okay with who you are but also wanting to improve yourself.
I had a dream last night. As I always do.
I dreamt that the people were on their way to God, and they had to solve a puzzle to get to the Universal State of Love and Unity and City of God.
But they lost a piece. They had to find it and until they found it, they had to tear the puzzle apart and solve it all over again.
I see this dream as a metaphor for the modern world. We are working on building a sustainable, loving world in which everyone accepts each other and everyone has the freedom to live a good life.
But we’re not there yet. There are still people with guns, there are still people with hunger. There are still people living in ways which aren’t sustainable but they don’t know how to change their lives.
I want to share a positive message with the world, teach the world how I am living a pretty happy life and get by on doing it. It’s possible, all the examples are out there. The American Dream is still alive, within me.
Because I am nobody special. I am pretty much just a normal guy, but I am pretty happy with what I have nonetheless. I want to share that happiness with others.
I will tell you how I am living a happy life.
It’s not easy. Anything easy is not worth your time. It’s all about mindset.
Normally I don’t tell people what to do. I let them figure it out themselves, and only step in when they are making a big mistake. I correct with a soft hand. But when they come to me for advice, I am happy to help.
I will act like you are asking me for help and give you the advice. That’s probably why you kept reading this blog in the first place.
1. The first thing you should know is that it’s not in your best interest to have an opinion about everything. Even though I have some principles, I try to keep an open mind about most things.
I am willing to listen to people and place myself in their shoes. People notice this and it makes them want to talk to me.
Desire is suffering, like the Buddha said. If you want to impose your will on others, they will resist and it will create friction.
If you keep an open mind, you will glide through life. It will be a lot easier.
An example is a conversation I had lately with a hardcore atheïst. He tried to convince that God doesn’t exist by using reasoning. He was pretty good at it, but since believing that God exists is one of my principles, I didn’t budge.
There was some resistance on my part, but at least I listened to his arguments. I admitted that I couldn’t match his reasoning skills, but that God is a feeling within me and some other people that I just can’t get around. It was a good conversation, although we agreed to disagree.
If we hadn’t kept an open mind, we wouldn’t have listened to each other.
2. Waking up early does wonders for your productivity. If you wake up at 5AM, you have a four hour edge over the people who start their day at 9AM. You can use these four hours to work on your sidebusiness, pursue creative goals or do sports.
When everyone is still rubbing the sleep out of their eyes at the office, you will be wide awake and kicking.
Whenever I go to college, I make a point of it to wake up early. When you’ve already been active for a while, you can concentrate better on your work and learn better.
People respect people who get up early. They feel that it is a marker of success. Rightfully so.
Because the early bird catches the worm, as the saying goes. And, when you wake up early, you can listen to these early birds chirping. To be one with nature. Aaaah…
3. You will probably think I’m crazy that I’m giving you this piece of advice, but it works for me and a lot of others: Start your day with a cold shower or a cold swim.
It invigorates you. It’s painful to start it but after you’re done your body starts to glow and you’ll have forgotten about the uncomfortableness.
Cold showers are good for your blood circulation. As the cold water hits your body, your body starts working harder to maintain ideal body temperature. It’s a great start of the day. Ask people who don’t have access to warm showers. Ask Wim Hof.
A cold shower guarantees I’ll have a happy day. I don’t know why this is, but after having taken cold showers for about a year I can definitely say there’s some correlation. Maybe it has to do with the fact that when you take a cold shower I feel more active, and thus am more social.
4. Porn and masturbation are bad for you. Stop listening to the people who tell you to ‘liberate yourself sexually’. Sexual liberation is an effect of honest relationships filled with confidence, not of jerking away your life fluid in an old sock.
When you watch porn, your brain creates dopamine that it’s not supposed to make. Because this feels so good, you want bigger hits of dopamine. That’s why you eventually will run the risk of sitting in front of your screen and ‘making love to yourself’ for 14 times in a row (a guy in my highschool boasted about his ‘stamina’).
This is unhealthy behavior. Healthy behavior is meeting new people, honestly feeling whether you click with them or not and going from there. Taking initiative like the confident person you are.
5. Cutting alcohol out of my life… Where do I start?
I feel so much happier now that I’m not depending on a despressant to connect with people when I go out. I can stay out late and not have a hangover, for starters.
It saves me money. It saves me brain damage (I study a lot better now!). It saves me from making mistakes when in the club. It saves me from covering the floor with puke (to be young and wild is not as chique as you might think). It saves me from unwanted contact with police officers (this happened).
I met a guy who made a mistake at a work party while he was drunk. He was reprimanded, but said to me that he was full of shame. He vowed to not drink for 90 days to see the effect of it. I lauded him for it.
He already tried 30 days and it went well. He thought that he might not stay true to his word if he said ‘I’m not going to drink for a year’ so he continued by doing a 90 day alcohol fast. He could always lengthen the resolution, he said to me.
I thought that was pretty good of him. Don’t aim too high, don’t aim too low. I started out by going for a year, and I don’t think I’m going back. Haven’t faltered once.
When I tell some people that I don’t drink anymore, they say to me:
Wow, you’re not drinking anymore. I wish I could do that, but it’s so hard. It’s so ingrained in our culture and that makes it hard to quit.
I say forget about the the drinking culture that makes people encourage each other to damage themselves. Return to your natural bodily state and feel the natural highs that your body can produce by working out, dancing or talking to people. If you want to live an exceptional life, you have to be exceptional.
I have one pieces of advice for the wannabe quitters. 1. Just don’t buy alcohol. If you must drink, switch to water or soda. 2. There is no number two. Number one is the big idea. It works.
6. The movie ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ was absolute shit even though it had Julia Roberts in it, but there’s something about the message that struck home with me. The act of praying or meditating is pretty good. Connecting with an intelligence that’s beyond humans is very calming. I pray in bed and before dinner, sometimes throughout the day when I think about it. I ask for blessings for everyone, bless my food, pray for love and ask for another day.
A lot of people nowadays don’t affiliate with a religion, and you don’t have to subscribe to a dogma. Whether you are Muslim, Christian or Jewish, it’s all the same God of Love anyway
These are six things that make me happy. See if they work for you. Experiment and play around. Nothing is set in stone. The road is long and windy, but we keep on dreaming.
This was it. Until next time.