I don’t want to own much.
My family is not materialistic at all, and I’ve grown up to be a child of my family. It’s the part of me that has been nurtured with love.
I’m a maker. A creator.
I don’t care for collecting things and here’s why.
The boredom you have is going to return a while after you have bought an item anyway.
You can only own a new item so long before it becomes old. That’s why people always want the newest phone, the newest car, the newest IKEA sofa.
But let me tell you my friend, happiness is not found in buying items.
People are trying to fill the dark side with stuff. But the dark side comes back when you don’t adress the root of the problem.
That’s why people go backpacking to Bali: It’s to escape the boredom.
When you leave on the jetplane, it’s all good. You see some temples, you meet some locals, who are always very happy and are smiling a lot. You kayak, go out and party on a beach. You post some pictures to your Instagram.
But when you come back, everything is back to as it was. You notice that the people in the West smile less because they’re stressed and start to smile less yourself.
After a while you book another trip to South America and then it starts all over again.
I plead that you to adress the core problems in your life before backpacking to Bali. Otherwise, it just comes back to you.
The problem is: You’re bored. You’re bored of your boring job, you’re bored of the friends that you have known too long. You’re bored of your home and of the fact that you’re always tired after work and are not able to do anything fun in the weekend because you have to ‘recharge’.
You wish you would meet somebody new, someone who can show you the beauty in the world again.
That someone new has to be yourself. You have to motivate yourself each week to experience something new that has positive effects for you in the long run.
So I don’t mean for you to drink away your boredom. On the contrary. You have to find positive things that you can do on a regular basis without it having negative side-effects on your balance.
You have to see yourself as awesome enough to do something that’s out of your comfortzone, you have to see yourself as social so you’ll start to talk with people who you’ve never met.
In short, you have to be the light. Let that light radiate unto others.
When I went to a party last Saturday, a guy from my old highschool said at the afterparty “Do you know how we were having the best night of our lives at the club? We radiated that shit and it spread to the people around us”.
And indeed, I was having one of the best nights of my life. Shirts off, dancing, sweating, conversation, and that by using only water and cigarettes.
And people followed, like the guy said. We hyped the place up.
You don’t need much to have a good time. You don’t need to buy into that lie. Most good things are cheap.
Until next time.